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Dear Astral,
I am in a committed relationship and I have been with my boyfriend for about a year. A week ago me and some friends went out for drinks and I met a man who was attractive to me. He just wasn't physically attractive to me but there was something there that I couldn't put into words, it is like I was drawn to him. Later on in the night he was looking at my hand, specifically my palms, and he noticed that our marking are similar. I didn't really notice it all that much until I really studied his hand and the "M" shaped marking was the EXACT same. We also come from similar lives and have had similar issues. Could he be my soulmate even if our Astrology signs say we aren't the perfect match?
Help me!
Courtney
Dear One,
Some of the most meaningful relationships in life did not start out like a moth to a flame. Also consider that most of us have several soul mates living on Earth in one lifetime. Some are parents to children as well syblings and best friends. There may be other reasons why you were meant to meet besides making you feel that perhaps you are not with the right man after all. My answer is yes. This can be a soul mate regardless of what the stars say. Consider consulting other divinations like numerology but don't allow the numbers to dictate what your gutt instinct is telling you. Your gift of intuition is going to be the most accurate source.
Dear Astral,
Hi... and thanks for taking the time to help so many folks. Relating is not easy and often there exists much confusion as the two parties do not communicate like they need to.
For me, I am into communication and relating. I was married for 24 years before that relationship finally crumbled as we each went on our own separate paths. Since then, I have had many relatings (this should be a word) with ladies from spiritual sites and other dating sites. I have met many friends and even have had a relationship almost work into something that would last.
However, that relationship died for the very same reason that many relationships never get off the ground. Simply, many of these women lie (probably the men too, but I have no experience with this). They lie about obvious things at first like weight and age. Then they lie about being the kind of person they said they were and it just goes on and on. Lying=No Trust=No Love. Very simple with me. If I cannot trust a lady, why would I wish to open my heart to her?
That aside, I would not even bring this up but it is so epidemic. Why do people think it is ok to lie in relating? I do not get it. Relating and loving is a beautiful dynamic and I have seen so many potentialities for something special go down the drain as the truth about the person finally surfaces. I find it very discouraging, and yet I stay out there because it is worth it to me to try and find someone who wants to relate from the heart in the wonderful ways that are so possible. I much prefer experiencing the joy in life with another and I will keep searching and never give up hope. Yet, my heart has been pounded many times as the truth about the other emerges. I mean, I was involved with one woman who said she was nurturing and did not even know what assuaging meant (and she was quite literate). Needless to say, she wasn't nurturing at all although I was always there to hold her and listen and help. Boy that felt bad, especially since she was an expert at self-nurturance and had every kind of therapy for herself as well as traveling all over the world.
I don't know, I just don't get it. Don't folks know that the truth will set them free? I suppose not. And I have felt like a fool many times for believing women because I like to see the best in people. Perhaps it is that people do not see the truth about themselves. Regardless, it is very painful to open to relating and find that the other has been lying and has shown no loyalty to what should be a special bond. Your thoughts?
freethought
Dear One,
It is all true and sad. Women most certainly do not have the monopoly on lying, however.
I believe the online adventure can add excitment to the lives of many because of anonymity. Where else can drop your inhibitions at the door and feel truly welcomed to not only be yourself but even be someone else? We have taught our children for generations to be someone other than who we are that we're no longer comfortable with the Truth. Truth is no longer setting us free, freethought. It's only bringing us fear.
The majority of the women who are found lying to you are one's with little self-esteem. Many women are also facing this issue with the men, and this is not to leave out gay people, too. While this means you do have to keep that third eye chakra wide open and trust your intuition, you must also realize that many, many happy and long lasting relationships have happened as a result of an online introduction. I suppose nothing has really changed. As a woman might say, 'You still have to go through loads of frogs before you meet your Prince.'
No matter what, remember to stay true to yourself and that we're all worthy of true and honost love. Keep sending your desires out into the ethers and know that you can manifest anything.
Best wishes on your continued quest!
Dear Astral,
I had an experience recently, where I was one day in a good relationship. We were talking on the phone, I had sent a letter and a photograph of myself to her. That evening I sent 28 seperate distant attunements over a period of a couple of hours. Plus she had sent a series of attunements to me distantly a couple of days previously, very powerful! I guess I couldn't assimilate the energies that quickly and was cleansing rather heavly and had some major blockages. Well I had gone into a manic episode before, but didn't have enough insight untill later into the day, I tried to apologize and I thought that being an empath she would understand, but she didn't have a clue what I was going through. I tried to explain when I came down, but I guess it felt like, no your just a dirty old towel, throw you out. . .well we were heartbroken, I know. I guess, I'm never doing that many attunements ever again in one evening, but was that the real problem or just an excuse. . .I 'm confused. Why do people talk down to you when you have a name? I got so hurt, I said something I regretted. . . don't people forgive anymore?
Paul
Dear One,
Perhaps you try to do too much, too soon. There is a certain art to pacing relationships. The introductions and possibilities are often based on harsh judgements. Easing into it without expectations is the best approach for the heart. If you lay it all out on the table at once with little left unseen, there is no mystery to unfold. Mystery is an attraction. Every new piece to the puzzle called Paul will be examined with excitement as it's revealed. This is simply human nature. This doesn't mean that people don't like what they see. If you have a manic episode however or anything rather negative-looking to the other person, it's easier for people to step away in the beginning of the relationship possibilities stage because they haven't invested much yet. In later stages that becomes more difficult and more often situations are forgiven and hopefully even understood because they know you well enough at that point. Remember, first impressions are important, and need to be casual, brief and calm. Had this person gotten to know you better before your attunements, perhaps the outcome might have been different. However, in the case of anyone who's going to talk down at you, perhaps the outcome was actually a blessing for you.
Dear Astral,
I have been in a relationship for 10 plus years. The problem is that I feel that my significant other has no time for me. He is always consume with his hobby, horses. I was in school therefore, I complained about him not spending time with me and did not want to deal with the problem. I went along to get along. I am a spiritual person and have ask God to direct me in this relationship. The first of the year it came full blown. He did not show up for a planned date because of something he had to handle, but did not call too much later. At the present time we are not talking, I went to talk to him after 3 weeks of no talking and we never reached an agreement. He states that he will not be the one to end it. I feel it's ended because we are not communicating. He has been calling about once a week but with small talk. Should I ask him to stop calling or should we try to work out the differences?
Help
A.
Dear One,
I think you are a very wise woman when you write, "I feel it's ended because we are not communicating." This is true. A relationship can only exist if there is interaction. In just what I read, I believe he may want to end it but refuses to do so in order for him not to have to carry a burden of guilt. True love doesn't fade. It doesn't lose interest or turn its head. If it were me, I'd feel that I invested enough time in this direction, however, what you choose to do is your free will decision. If you do end it, don't be bitter. These years with him were meant to be, and probably contributed greatly to your personal growth.
Dear Astral,
Like many i am looking for my soulmate.Well not really looking,but i am interested in finding that one special person for me.What I mean, i would like to find someone who i could love and would love me back, but if it doesn't happen-i understand and won't spent my days crying over it.Because my main priority is to become more spiritual and get a better connection with my guides and angels.That is what i want more then anything.To be able to be with them.
But lately,i've become to think about how nice it would be to be in a loving relationship with another.It's something that seems nice and makes me feel warm inside.And as much as i try to stay positive about it.Deep inside, i doubt that i will ever find him.My past has left me feeling very distrustfull and distant.It has also lowered my self-esteem and made me self-conscious.I find it hard to open up to anyone,except my angels.I tend to feel rather,like i really don't know what anyone would see in me.Must be lowered self-esteem.
The boys weren't really all that nice to me until i hit 18.Even now, they tend to be distant.Maybe they can sence my defensiveness.I've only been on 3 dates in my whole life.And didn't feel anything for either of them.I only went cause my friend said i should.It's silly but i always thought when it's love that i would just know and feel drawn to the person.Whishfull thinking i guess.
I really don't know what to do about this.I think about it from time to time.But never enough to let it depress me.What do you think i should do?Should i just let this go for now?Maybe work on myself more since i think i have issues...
Any bits of guidance would be really appreciated.
Love.Light.And Happiness.
Melanie
Dear One,
Some words you wrote tends to make me think you are still young with many years ahead. It is true that if you have lowered self-esteem, you don't always open yourself up as much as a more extroverted person might. Living in the shadows may not bring a boyfriend to you as easily. Most likely you turn to your angels more often because they love unconditionally and there lies no fear of rejection or judgement. You must remember though, that you came to Earth to experience human conditions as well. Positive and negative, here it is. You should never stop turning to Spirit, but you must also remember that our time here is relatively short....and like a roll of toilet paper -- the farther you get into it the faster it goes! So give up? Nonsense! I'm also not saying you need to jump right out there either. Perhaps you do need to concern yourself with YOU first. Get to know who you are and love being your own best friend. Determine where the self-esteem issues come from and confront them head on. When you feel worthy as a person -- as worthy as your own angels know you are -- your outlook reflects upon others. At that point, healthy relationships develop. I suggest that you work on the self, create new and active friendships with both sexes and then watch love turn the corner and walk right into you when you least expect it.
Dear Astral,
Hello,
I was wondering how long a woman can remain interested in a guy. I met a woman late last year and I did not follow through on her advances. I recently came across her new work number and I was wondering if she may still have feelings for me?
Can a woman go a year or longer and still be interested?
Thanks,
Greg
Dear One,
A woman can be interested for eternity or when the next bus comes along -- whichever comes first. Could you imagine being interested in a woman and then seeing her a year later and not being interested anymore if you're still single?
If she's still available, the odds are way in your favor. If I'm wrong... what's the worst case? She politely brushes you off? You'd get over rejection, but you may never get over wondering what might have been. Make the call !
Dear Astral,
I have been single for some time now and although I date, I?ve had a difficult time finding someone who is spiritual and on my wave-length. I?m very discouraged and have tried many spiritual methods to bring a relationship to myself (and I?m familiar with the concept that I must love myself first). This situation is even more difficult because I have genetic depression to contend with which is sapping my spiritual energy also. My medication keeps me afloat but if my needs were met, I would feel much better. My question is, could the energy of the location I live in keep me from manifesting something that would uplift my life such as love? I?ve talked to others here with the same problem and once they moved, they came into love relationships. I need to try and find an answer as to why I cannot manifest something to meet that kind of need in my life.
Thank you
Marcia
Dear One,
You are luckier than some if you are at least dating. Some people aren't getting that far. You also have many needed insights already. Yes, self-esteem, love and being your own best friend first is a key element and it sounds like you work on that. It is not an outside force that completes us.
Geography definately can play another key role. We are all effected by our environment. There are a number of astrologers who can help you with a geographical chart and even help pin point places you might be better suited if you're willing to uproot. My personal belief though is that we have very strong-willed spirit guides whose job it is to bring the right connections together and they will work around free will decisions by bringing the mountain to Muhammad if need be. It is still your free will decision to accept or reject once their jobs are done.
I think you may want to consider manifesting from the heart more than looking outside for the answer. Speak with your guides?they hear your prayers. Also remember patience. It may be that you (or he) have a couple more karmic issues to clear off the plate before you are ready to come together. By all means keep dating, but use this time to continue to grow on your own (it may be a gift) and you'll be that much stronger for it later.
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